Are Fat Men Sexy?

I did a post on fat women.  Now what about fat men? I have dated men of all sizes and have come to prefer healthy & plump. I don't like the beer gut look, but I love a little chub to hug and cuddle with.  My guy is in the military and so he has to keep fit, although he's a little on the chubby side.  He has a fabulous butt and amazing legs/calves/thighs. I love his body just the way it is and find it very attractive. 

Personally, I've never been attracted to skinny, tall/lean types -- something about them just wouldn't feel nice to hug, cuddle with or anything.  Perhaps in my own twisted way I feel like I would be judged more by a skinny or super-in-shape dude.

I found an article by Tobsha Learner on the Times Online website that provides good explanation why fat men can be just as attractive and sexy as fit/skinny men.  The full article is here: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/men/article2049288.ece

Not all of you may read the full article, so I took the liberty of pulling some interesting perspectives from her article...

" My eye has changed when I now contemplate the current ideal of male beauty that is thrown at us innocent, but equally voyeuristic, women from the billboards. The hollowed cheeks, thin flanks, bony hands and knees that once said edgy, dangerous, a challenge to seduce and illicit in bed, now says undernourished, undersexed, uncomfortable, narcissistic (narcissists are lousy lovers) and probably a closet smoker. The airbrushed, injected beefcake as opposite to the languid, rake-thin model doesn’t cut it any more, either. I would not want to spend time with someone who invests more in beauty products than I do; it also suggests more time invested in brawn than brain. I suspect that for most women sexual attractiveness lies between the ears and in not the pecs – anthropologically, we are the less visually driven gender.

There is something comforting about being with a man who has heavier thighs than I do, considerable love handles and breasts only marginally smaller than mine. I feel that there is less pressure to conform to a size-zero stereotype. His confidence in his body shape has made my attitude to my own more tolerant and empathetic towards natural female hormonal seesawing of size.

Years ago, a well-travelled male friend compared making love to a voluptuous woman rather than a skinnier one as the difference between driving a comfortable family sedan and driving a hard-seated sports car built for a quick spin. At the time my inner feminist was appalled. Now, though, I know precisely what he was talking about. Enjoying a plump lover for the first time is like collapsing on to a well-upholstered sofa after a lifetime spent thrashing around on a deflated air mattress. There’s also something inherently primal and womanly about having weight on top of you, to the side of you and under you.

Then there is the power factor. Take our distant cousin the gorilla: the male is often twice the size of the female, his girth and bulk (and glistening grey hair) all play a part in attracting females, but also in fighting off smaller and younger (read slimmer) males from whisking away one of his harem. Perhaps my promiscuous hunter days are over but, whatever the reason, this economically independent female is happy to lie down with the ambling heavier silverbacked alpha male (minus harem), who can encompass me with his generous dimensions as well as being able to dismiss the occasional lovelorn skinny beta male with one flick of his intellect. More importantly, the cuddle factor is huge. 

Fat guys are often funny and, as every bloke knows, humour is one of the most effective ways of wooing. I suspect that the less conventionally handsome males are driven to develop other seduction strategies, and humour is right up there in the Top Ten.

Interestingly, rotund men are less likely than thin ones to commit suicide – so either eating what you like makes you happy, or unhappiness makes you thin, take your pick. So go forth, sisters, embrace the circumference, hug the bear. You may find that Prince Charming is a little heavier than Cinderella imagined."

So, with that said, it seems that there are women out there who are chubby chasers as well...find heavier men sexy.  I'm notusually the type of girl to check out heavier men, although I am chubby myself, but sometimes I will spot a handsome fat guy that I think is attractive in his own way and I would go out with him if asked (and of course, single).

Anyone else want to "weigh" in on this topic...is fat sexy?